Be Determined

Those people who were determined to do the work, despite all their difficulties, were the ones who succeeded. To overcome the worries, fears, and demands that may seem overwhelming during a semester, you must make a firm decision to do the work. Running from the work, you may lose precious time and opportunities in your life.

Criticism

All of us have at one time or another felt the sting of criticism – the injustice of it and the uncertainty of it. Criticism is as sure as death and taxes. While it will be impossible to avoid criticism, I warn you here and now to expect more of it as you consider goals for life. There is for basic reasons why you can expect to be criticized more in the future. I will list them so that you can be prepared.

1. You will be criticized because you are not conforming to normal behavior. Once you set goals for life, with the inherent objectives and obligations, you step away from the crowd; you have broken with conformity.
2. Criticism comes from possessing dreams and purpose which guide and direct your life. Here you will encounter envy because your life goals are obviously having an effect on you. Your motivation will often be described as arrogance, pride and even ruthlessness. And to know where you are going, and how you are going to get there, poses a threat to those who get along by going along.
3. Your objective planning and motivation mirrors the inadequacy of the critic. Most people know they can do better and when you confront them with a life which is growing and expanding it will not go unnoticed and you will be pulled down.
4. You will attract criticism because you have taken control of your own life and accepted personal accountability. In taking this course of action you are suggesting others do the same. You are challenging and provoking them. You will attract criticism.

Loneliness

From time to time things will go wrong and, to put it bluntly, you’ll feel rotten. The depth of your feelings will be directly related to the foolishness or lack of attention to detail that brought about the misery. From an outsider’s point of view, you may have seen someone who is suffering and wondered why they got so uptight about mistakes in life. The point is, quite often we blow our mistakes out of proportion, which hurts us more and makes recovery slower. Mistakes, failures and errors of judgment are going to happen from time to time, and we’ll feel alone. Feeling alone will occur whether we are supported by others or not.

Loneliness is a natural component of life experience by all who are determined to make something of their lives. It is not that we disregard the preferred comfort of friends and family. These are always significant assets to us all, and the special bond and affection of a close family is the best support anyone can have. But even with the strongest family or friendship support, the bottom line always exposes itself: It all really depends on me and I had better get back to the bench quickly, do some repair work and push on. We wallow in the comfort of friends and family is to slip back further into failure and despair. Very often what we need is a kick in the pants to increase our fighting spirit, rather than a soft shoulder to cry on.

Don’t get me wrong – I know we need comfort and support from those we love, but that is to be a temporary thing to dress the wounds and comfort the patient. After a while (and the shorter the time the better), we go back into the battle, bandages, wounds and all, and fight on towards our life goal.

Loneliness in life goals is natural because these goals are yours alone, and you must accept the full responsibility for the results or lack of results. The danger is to think that you can do it all alone, without support and encouragement. Without family and friends you must do the next best thing – encourage yourself. And how do you do that? By affirmation, auto-suggestion, reading good inspirational material (such as biographies) – and of course, prayer.

When the axe fall, you must take the blow yourself, and take full responsibility. During these times you feel what thousands have felt before you, that is the loneliness of leadership. For example, if you are in business and something does go wrong can you tell your bank manager? Of course not! He may well cut off financial supply. Can you share it with your staff? No, because they are looking to you for solutions, motivation and security. Well, can you share it with a competitor? Wrong again. He will be happy to know and take advantage of the set-back. Can you tell your spouse? Well, I’m sure that if I told my wife, it would double the trouble because she would start worrying about me. So let’s face it. When things go wrong, loneliness will be a natural component.

Of course, when things go right, share the glory and excitement with your family, friends and helpers. At times of victory it is only right you encourage as much participation as possible. Make the victories in your life goals special occasions because nobody will work faithfully and competently forever without some recognition. While you are at this point take a back seat, even if you are at the centre of attention. Too much involvement in the adoration of the crowd will separate you from your energy and next objective. Relish your victory when you are completely alone, knowing full when you set a goal and achieved it. Victory, like pain and loss, is a personal matter, and no one else can ever quite feel like a victor.

A point worth mentioning here is that people of high achievement are often accused of being aloof and independent, but I do not believe that is a fair generalization. Such an attitude shown by goal-setters and achievers is an expression of their dedication and commitment to a predetermined goal and not a reflection against other people. On the victory “high”, also guard against making any dramatic shift in your life’s goal plan. Wait for a sober moment to reassess if you feel it necessary.

1. Accept loneliness as a natural component of life.
2. Accept the comfort of family and friends as a breathing space only.
3. Nobody is going to fix the problem but you, so push on.
4. Even in success you can be alone.
5. Separating yourself from others because of your strong commitment is automatic.
6. Do not change plans when you are on a victory “high”.

Features of Successful Management

Part 1: He build his rapport with his people (recognize human nature - when you make people feel important they will respond positively to you.)

• A person is more interested in himself than in you, so try to talk others about themselves; you will be surprised how people will start liking you!
• Listen well to and compliment people; remember and use people's names. Let people know you recognize them.
• Master art of agreeing. Look for points to agree. You'll find people will co-operate better this way.
• Don't express your disagreement unless it is absolutely necessary and that would be very rare. Be sincere in praising; people can spot false praises.

Part 2: He leads his people (Influencing people)

• Set others' mood by smiling at them. People will return the smile and be pleasant and easier to influence.
• Find out what appeal to the people; you will persuade them best if what you say contain som of what appeal to people.
• It is human nature not to think of the person in front of you is smarter - better not state directly but quote others.
• Do not ask a person whether he wil do it or not - he is more likely to say "No". Give him choices to make. He'll do the thing you want in the end.
• Praise publicly but criticize privately; criticize the action not the person; do not call a person a fool, nor raise your voice. If you smile and are friendly, people will take your criticism better. Be sure to check facts first before your criticism more willingly.
• If you thank and reward people for what they do, they will tend to respond again in future for they know you care.

Learn to delegate roles. This will enable you to do more. Your smarter followers will be glad you recognize their worth.

Part 3: Maintaining the leadership

• If you are not enthusiatic about a thing, others cannot be persuaded to be enthusiatic.
• If you are forever running down people and scolding, people will not like to stick aroud you.
• You must know your stuff. People require guidance and soon recognize and abandon the foolish leader.
• If you are an enthusiatic wise and pleasant leader, people will find it pleasant and good to be with you. People stick longer to enthusiatic wise leaders, especially to caring leaders who treat their followers like a family.

Intelligence

Intelligence is defined by webster as:-
- the power of meeting (or adapting to) any situation, especially a novel situation, successfully by proper behavior adjustment.
- the ability to apprehend the interrelationships of presented facts in such a way as to guide action towards a desired goal.
- success in meeting or solving problems, especially new or abstruse problems.
- the capacity for understanding and for other forms of adaptive behavior, aptitude in grasping truth, facts and meaning.

Intelligence depends on having knowledge and then its use. You must be motivated to acquire knowledge before you could become intelligent. For intelligence is the use of knowledge.
Intelligence depends on:

• clearness of impression
• ability to assimilate and retain
• fertile imagination
• responsive to conditions
• self-criticism (assessment of your own weakness and strengths)
• confidence
• strong motivation.

Only the intelligent mind can be creative.

Leaders, Do Care!

• To love and to be loved by family and friends are what we want; if you are alone what is the fun in life?
• Most people who flock to churches do so because they seek to be loved and cared for.
• Treating people the way you see them is often the way they perform; you give them no other way!
• Look at the good positive side of people; you cannot use their negative side.
• A sincere complimnt is a most effective motivational force; it is so free to make.
• People have gone further than they thought they could because you thought they could.

"Know-how"

The word "know-how" does not mean knowing how to do something - that's activity knowledge. "Know-how" is doing something the right way, with skill and effectiveness, and with a minimum expenditure of time and effort. When you've "know-how" you can do something successfully again and again. It's a habit and it comes naturally from experience.
"Know-how" is one of the three essential ingredients in the "success system that never fails."